Cogental© communication considers the state of your emotions/physiology in the present moment - as well as the state of emotions/physiology of those you are interacting with in the pursuit of satisfying wants and needs. Consider that all behavior is intended to bring about a desirable future. Yet, most communication relates to the past. Rather than attempt to understand a person's wants/needs and how that behavior effectively leads to the desired outcome, we obsess over past behavior. This obsession makes it nearly impossible to achieve our goals. We are always given the present to control. We do this by being focused and mindful of our emotions/physiology.
In every relationship, at any given moment of time, you have certain thoughts, sensations and emotions. The key to relationship success is always being aware of how these impact your attitude and behavior. The key is always being intentional in what you think and deliberate in what you do.